You know, I’m rather sick and tired of celebrities cheating and then going on television and saying “I’m sorry, so sorry, here, slap my hand with a ruler, and I’ll never do it again”. Because, that’s what all those pretty ghostwritten speeches boil down to in the end.
How many of them really are sorry? I can understand one time being unplanned and that you might regret your decision in the morning. I can even go so far as two times being an accident, as everyone gets drunk on occasion and things happen when alcohol is involved. But several times? With multiple partners? That’s not an accident, that’s not a case of ‘I just couldn’t help it’ and it sure as hell isn’t something that can be forgiven.
I don’t care much for groveling, as it makes a fool out of both parties. Because the one who did the cheating? Will more than likely do it again.
The one who got cheated on? Is going to be miserable, paranoid, and distrustful for the rest of their life if they stay with the cheater.
I don’t give a damn if they say “it’s an addiction”. I’ve been through plenty of addictions in my life, and I’ve managed to get rid of almost all of them, except for coffee. Touch my coffee, and I’ll dismember you with a rusty spoon. But, you can kick an addiction if you want to. The kicker is that a lot of people are just too goddamn lazy, or pathetic, to make their life better by getting rid of said addiction. Even when they admit they’re an addict, they don’t really want that security blanket gone.
“Its the cocaine, the coke made me do it.”
“Just one drink won’t hurt. Just one.”
“I can’t help it, they’re like a drug for me.”
Each of those excuses is a cop-out, a way to avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
It’s not just celebrities. I can name five people, right now, who’ve cheated on their significant other in the last two years. And that’s just off the top of my head, give me a hour, and I can give you at least twenty. And these are people I know in real life, not in passing, but I’ve hung out with them, had dinner at their house, things like that. And these were people who, nine times out of ten, were in what was a good relationship. They were loved, respected, appreciated. But, apparently, they just had to go fuck something else for a change of pace. Get caught, pretend to be sorry, and then act offended when they’re dumped. It’s even better if the wronged partner “got even”; because what’s good for the goose apparently isn’t good for the gander.
Women cheat as often as men, before someone says I’m sexist in pointing the finger at men. But, I will say that men get the worst of it as their cheating is reported more often than a woman cheating. No man wants to admit his wife/girlfriend went looking elsewhere, as it’s an assault on his manhood. According to the men I know who have been cheated on anyway.
In my view, cheating on someone you supposedly love is a quick way to show them that you really don’t give a damn about them. That you’re more concerned with yourself than with them. You don’t care if you hurt them, so long as you get what you wanted.
Now, note that I said “someone you supposedly love”. If you don’t love them, and they know it, then cheating is still not nice, but it’s not as horrible in my opinion. Because there isn’t really a lie in there- they know you don’t love them, so they really can’t feel like your ripped their heart out or blew up the life they thought they’d have.
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